We all prepare for the WEDDING. But do we prepare ourselves for the MARRIAGE?

My friend was going through her divorce and as we were discussing about failed relationships/marriages I remembered my Mentor Dr. Ali Khwaja’s – words,

“It’s sad that we spend days, weeks and months preparing for the wedding ceremony, looking at the minutest details to ensure that the event is smooth and memorable – but we hardly prepare for the married life that is going to govern our future for many decades.

Perhaps that is the reason why we have so many failed marriages and traumatic relationships all around us, irrespective of whether it is an arranged or a love marriage.

I feel today there are many unhappy marriages, not because the partners are incompatible, but because we have not done the homework, prepared well and developed the relationship carefully like a delicate plantlet which eventually grows into a huge stable tree”.

I think, if we even spend one third of the time to understand each other, expectations, compatibility, non-negotiables, etc then we can have a beautiful partnership.

A beautiful marriage can stand tall over the pillars of Communication, Respect, Understanding, Commitment and Trust.

A blissful marriage is not just between two people who have common habits, likes, dislikes but rather between those who consciously work together to create meaningful chapters, one after another in this book of life called marriage.

Please share your views on What according to you are a few factors that you think are important to build a happy marriage? Or what factors are most likely to destroy a marriage?

Ranjitha Raj